Monday, January 1, 2018

The Shift


It was December 30, 2009.  I had ended a decade long relationship of love and toxic turmoil earlier that year, with a man I *know* I was tied to in a "way beyond this place" planned life.  My pulls are never wrong, ever. 

Since that time, I've treaded lightly in love, from not allowing myself to get close to "what I know" won't last, to cautiously believing in 2015, that I was on my way to a mutually respectful relationship headed towards a "real" marriage.  Instead, my heart was shattered by a coward.  Which, in the big picture, is OKAY.   Okay because my grandmother taught me, there's no room in a woman's life for a man without a spine to do the right thing.  Add to that the deaths of 2 other men I let into my day-to-day art of living these past 8 years, and well, needless to say, I've stayed single. Purposely single. Healing.

I haven't given up on love, on true partnership, on another pull walking into my life and rocking my world.  Just as I never lost the love I have towards the one I had to walk away from.  I will always love him from afar.  I will always be energetically tied to him.  I can tell you on any given day what mood he is in, or even when he thinks about me.  I will always love and appreciate what I learned in my time with him, raising his daughter as my own, enjoying the healthy days of energy between us, and becoming a strong woman walking away from them both (couldn't take her with me) to a healthier life, one free of his sociopathic, controlling, & narcissistic ways. 

God has a way of allowing us to create peace in any pain. We just have to look for the things to be grateful for in the situation, once removed from it. The 20+ years I spent knowing both the pull and the coward, I believe, laid the foundation, for whatever comes next for me. That one day, I'll have what was good and right about both of them, manifested in someone else. One taught me to trust my pulls. The other taught me that someone can and will love my Lipedema body, love me, accept me, with paranormal activities,  and everything that comes along with being a light, and a healer. That I can be me, 100% in my own skin.  A real partner, a best friend. No walls. No boundaries. Just effortless being. Yes, that's what's ahead. And, I'm happy being solo until I get it! Eight years later, I know my worth.  I hope you know yours. You're priceless. Remember that, I love you.

Friday, September 29, 2017

15 Things

Came across this a few weeks ago, and it was worth passing along. It reminded me of my using a Bible verse as a sifting and sorting standard. I hope it helps you with your own standards and self worth.

these 15 things....

1. Is he or she a good friend to his/her friends?

2. Does he or she treat others (especially his mother and sisters/her father and brothers) with kindness, love & respect?

3. Is he or she responsible?  Dependable?  Reliable?

4. Does he or she keep his/her word?

5. Can he or she work through conflicts/problems calmly to resolution?
 
6.  Is he or she loyal and honest?

7. Does he or she care about your feelings?

8. Is he or she consistent & emotionally stable?

9. Is he or she free of addictions?

10. Is he or she kind to you, others, children & animals?
 
11. Does he or she have stable income and handle his/her finances well?

12. Is he or she generous with his/her time, energy and resources?

13. Does he or she want a committed relationship?

14. Does he or she accept you the way you are and allow you to be yourself?

15. Do you enjoy each other’s company?